the freedom of the now


Did you ever have an epiphany at a most ordinary time on a most ordinary day doing the most ordinary thing? (Actually, when I think about it, that’s when all my epiphanies have always come. ūüôā ) You feel like someone has finally found your switch and turned on the lights.

Yesterday¬†that happened to me. It was during a conversation with a friend I had last night.¬†I learned that a situation in her life that I had just heard about had been going on¬†for three weeks.¬†I realized right then that despite our conversations in the past¬†around this very thing of sharing her life as it happens with her best friend, me, wasn’t¬†likely to happen. She’s very reserved and I think perhaps a little¬†too proud.¬†And finally, I think I’m ok with that.

I personally believe this is how God means for us to live. To love others, yes, but to exercise freedom from¬†situations¬†that weigh us down and that we can’t change anyway.¬†Christ often walked away from people and situations¬†when there was no openness to his message.

When you accept that people¬†are who they are, you become free to be who you are. When you realize you can’t make them behave the way you want, you are free to behave the way you want. When you realize they are going to do what they want to do, you are free to do the same without apology or explanation.

I’m not suggesting that we become hard and uncaring. Never!! Only that we think a little¬† ¬†before giving away all our emotional energy on situations we are not going to change. Real change can only come from within. That applies to the people in our life as much as it does to us. This isn’t a case of “It is what it is”, except to the degree that it is what it is for now.

And now is the only moment in which we can live.

5 replies »

  1. You’re totally right, though it’s so difficult to remain vigilant about where we place our emotional energy. But it can be so empowering to realize when you’re doing something for yourself and your own benefit rather than putting friends’ feelings first.

    • Boy is it ever! It’s my greatest failing. I seem to use it all up before I realize it then I start sliding down a slippery slope. But just today I was encouraged that this is the right thing to do for my own well-being as well as my friends and family.

      Thanks for commenting and God bless.