I love it when I do the right thing because even when I know the right thing to do, I don’t always do it. Especially if I’m tired. Especially if it interrupts my plans. (I hate to have my plans interrupted.)
But most especially I hate it when I know that doing the right thing may turn out sour for me. I mean haven’t you had that happen? Like maybe you return something to a store because they undercharged you and you don’t even get a “Gee, that is so honest of you.”
Yet, in the end I’m always glad I did, especially when it didn’t benefit me in any way. Am I the only one or are there others there out in blog land who are as conflicted as I am about doing the right thing and then afterwards being conflicted about it?
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(The italicized part was written over three years ago but I’m re-posting it here because I am fearful it could be happening again. I know I’m now alone in facing this so I thought I would re-post it seeing as I have many more followers now and I hope it can help someone else.)
Someone I know is, as we often say, “going downhill”. To her, life seems very much an “uphill” battle. Her vitality is gone. It’s as though someone or something has taken over her spirit. She’s existing but she’s not living. She’s lost interest. She suffers from depression and solely relies on medication to make her better. She has never done the hard work required to look at herself and her complicity in her depression and she’s unlikely to do that now.
She’s from a different era.
When people didn’t:
- Examine their lives
Didn’t talk about their feelings
Let their wounds fester unattended
- Believed everything their doctor says
- Never questioned anything
They lived their lives in bondage to what other people thought, never daring to take a chance. Never daring to be who they really wanted to be, do what they really wanted to do.
She never shared personal struggles with anyone. Ever. Airing one’s dirty linen on a public clothesline was taboo but having the dirty linen wasn’t, as long as it remained secret. So many choking secrets.
So it’s no surprise life is hard for this person at times. One cannot live a lifetime of unfulfilled dreams, of dashed hopes, of denial, and tackle old age with effortlessly. It’s hard enough for those who have. So we need to do our best to “grace” them however we can. Today I tried to do that. I don’t know if it was enough.
I never know if it’s enough.
There is a saying I remind myself of often. I tried to find its source but Mr. Google didn’t know. 🙂 It’s another way is of saying ,”do the right thing’.
“Do as much good as you can,
to as many people as you can,
for as long as you can,
in any way that you can.”
Is there anyone you need to do the right thing by today? No matter how inconvenient, no matter how little you might be rewarded? Even when the outcome doesn’t match the input, the right thing is still the right thing.
God bless and I hope you have a good day.