Why our self-pity is not the enemy

Have you ever had a day when you’ve told yourself, enough is enough; that you’ve more than done your share. That you don’t need to do anything else. You tell yourself to kick back and enjoy.

You’re tired.

Now there are certainly times we DO need rest and relaxation. (Read my post about that here. That’s not the point I’m making.

When it’s a deliberate, well-thought out approach, it’s perfectly fine to pencil in time for ourselves. In fact, it’s a good idea.

I’m talking about those times when we do these things because we feel entitled. 

One author I read suggested self-pity is a sin. I don’t call it that.

It’s an emotion.

If any negative option is singled-out as sin, then all such emotions are sin. And if that’s the case, how do we explain the times Jesus clearly displayed anger and frustration?

No emotion by itself and contained within the walls of ours mind are sin.

It’s when they escape their confinement and spill over into our lives that they become a problem.


I like this video. Give it a look-see.

So don’t chastise yourself because you’re human and have feelings. Just learn to recognize them and manage them.

If they’re negative, you’ll want to keep them confined for the most part. Acknowledge them, yes. Express them? Maybe not. Unless it’s to a trusted friend and you need to vent so you don’t explode.

Stress. Woman stressed is going crazy pulling her hair in frustration. Close-up of young businesswoman on white.

Obviously, positive emotions are a different issue altogether but even then they may need to be curtailed if by expressing them you make others feel sad. (You know what I mean, right? For example, if you just got a big promotion and your friend has lost their job, then maybe you want to temper your enthusiasm.)

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 God bless and I hope you have a good day. 🙂