When does an egg start to crack?
Usually it’s when new life is about to begin. Other times it’s because it’s been damaged.
I’m not sure about families.
I remember reading “The Mulvaneys” years ago. It’s about a family that everyone thought was perfect but it had a tiny, tiny crack that was barely discernible behind its perfect exterior. With the first “hit” the family started to fall apart.
But once it started to crack there was no stopping it.
There are cracks in most families. From some, new life emerges. In others, the crack just keeps deepening. Is it a person? Is it circumstances? Is it outside influences?
Is it any one individual persons issues that hasten our families’ disintegration? Is it the people who join our family network with their own “cracks”?
Can a family survive and come away stronger after it has been broken in two?
One thing seems to be universal, families have to work to survive. That means staying in contact and staying connected. That will look different for each family.
It means overlooking old wounds. It means giving each other the benefit of a doubt.
It also means being honest and not pretending something doesn’t hurt if it does.
None of this is easy. But the families that survive find a way to do just that.
What’s that famous saying from Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy? “All happy families resemble one another, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
May you and your family find ways to become strong.
God bless and I hope you have a good day.