Month: February 2016

dandelion

I love the word “anyway” and it’s a really great word

I read this book a few years ago and I thought I’d share some of the precepts over the next two days.

  • “People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.” Love them anyway.
  • “If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.” Do it anyway.
  • If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
  • The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
  • Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.

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Tomorrow is part two, although it will have the same title.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

chalk painted furniture

the week in review and we’re headin’ home

This week posts have been all over the map.

I started Tuesday (Honestly, don’t know what happened to Monday’s post.) with a post about some decorating ideas you might want to try. They were from my favorite store in Florida called, The Beach House. Most of their furniture is repurposed with chalk paint and you know how I like painting! Here’s one picture. Look closely and you will see very ordinary pieces that have taken on new life.chalk painted furniture

Wednesday I shared some great clothing items I had found at a Goodwill store.

Thursday I explained how selfishness is often selflessness. Earlier that morning (hey, that made up for Monday, huh?) though I posted about my great success with transferring my photos from my phone to Google Drive and then to Google photos. I know that’s  probably not a big deal to most of you but for me it was major.

Friday’s post took a twist. It was supposed to be a light-hearted funny post about my big purchase of pecan log rolls. No, really.

But then my husband had a bout of food poisoning in the wee hours of Friday morning and I got scared. Again. I counted the number of emergency room visits with my husband over the last fifteen years. There have been six. That’s five too many, right? So you can understand why I panicked a little. So that post was about being a Christian and admitting to fear. 

So when you read this we are headed back to Michigan. We loved our two weeks down here but frankly we’re glad to be headed home.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

And p.s. remember if your depression is looming this week-end, try to plan your time. Remember,

Distraction is a wonderful thing.

 

fear of judgement

Why I hope you won’t judge me for being scared

I don’t always post things as they are happening. Most of the time I like to reflect and think things through first because I don’t want to say something that might cause someone to lose faith.

And I don’t want to be judged.

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As you know we are in Florida.  We head home tomorrow.

What I haven’t told you is that my husband has scared me a number of times. There has been more than one 911 call over the years. There has been more than one time, I’ve been really, really scared.

What is the worst, of course, is when you’re a long way from home and your spouse gets sick, especially when there’s that 911 history haunting you.

Last night, suddenly, my husband got sick, nausea, many trips to the “john”. Can I just say, why do these things always happen at night?

When he gets sick, both of us panic a little because some of his current health conditions mimic a heart attack like  his costochondritis and his acid reflux.

So my first thought is, of course, is “Is this a heart attack”. Do I call 911 again or not? Do I wait and see, and if I do will I regret that decision?

And, of course, that thought that many spouses fee, I couldn’t live without them. I wouldn’t want to and:

I get so scared.

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There, I’ve said it.

I get  scared.

As a Christian woman who loves her God, who prays and studies her Bible regularly, I get scared. I don’t share it often.

And the reason I don’t share it is because I don’t want someone judging me or thinking I don’t believe myself what I write about.

But then I think about Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane and I remember how scared He was.  How he prayed that the cup would be removed. And then I relax a little.

We should never be afraid to express our doubts but we should choose our audience carefully. I am hoping I have chosen my audience carefully here.

The truth is unless we’ve experienced some of these same things, we can never understand why some people naturally feel fear and anxiety more than others.

As I lay in bed, I thought, “I can’t do this again. How can I pack everything myself and load the car? (Because of my back issues.) How can I drive us home? (Again, the back issues.)

But then I remembered I’ve done this before and it was right here in Florida. It was about eight years ago. My husband was in the hospital for about five days. I was all alone. I somehow managed to move to another hotel room and not lose any belongings. I drove us home. I did what I had to do and God was with me every step of the way and:

I was scared the whole time. Yet, at the same time, I was talking to God every minute through the fear and tears.

Faith doesn’t have to look brave. It doesn’t have to look like another person’s faith. In fact, there is no evidence anywhere in Scripture that says what faith looks like on any one person.

What Scripture does say is that faith is confidence and assurance that what God says he will do, he will. I read through the famous “faith” chapter, Hebrew 11, and couldn’t find any evidence that these heroes of faith accomplished what they did with no fear.

Psalm 56:3 states, “When I am afraid, I will trust in Him”.

Dear Heavenly Father,

You know fear is my nemesis. Fear is the weakest part of my faith. My mind always goes to “what if” instead of  trusting you. When I fear, I feel captive to the enemy. So i admit who I am and ask you to give me courage and help me remember all our faithfulness from the past. Help me to take the best care of my husband that I can. Once again you have come to my rescue and I am so grateful that you don’t judge me for my fear. 

If and when fear strikes, our first response is to turn to God, we are handling fear the right way. When we put one foot in front of another and continue to do the right thing, even when we’re scared, we are handling fear the right way.

But what about “perfect love casts out all fear”?

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. I John 4:16-18

This verse is referring to the fact that as Christians we need not fear God and his judgement because God is love and we are being made perfect through him.

I’ve often stated that if I didn’t allow myself to feel fear, I might not cling to God as I should. When we deny who we are and our normal and not to be condemned human feelings, we miss the opportunity that comes when we find ourselves desperate.

This post today was supposed to be about pecan log roll. No, really, it was. It’s funny and entertaining but that will wait now till next week.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

 

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Selfishness can sometimes be selfLESSness

Freedom to live our own lives isn’t easily come by. Especially when you’ve been the “go to” person for everyone in your life, when you’ve been the one they’ve all counted on. To suddenly change course and carve out some time for yourself reeks of selfishness.

But it’s really quite selfless.

If you are doing the best you can for the people in your life, you have not only have a right but you have an obligation to yourself to place some “soft” boundaries around your life. Not in a vindictive manner, but in a way that lets you breathe and maintain some balance. In a way that lets you pursue your own interests without feeling guilty.

Easier said than done, right? Because:

Most of us have a hard time putting ourselves first.

It’s hard to carve out some time for ourselves. We’re acutely aware of the Biblical injunction to love others and we assume that means we never put ourselves first. We forget the times Christ walked away from the crowds to re-group. And he never apologized.

We forget how Christ didn’t apologize to the rich young ruler and how he walked away because the young man refused to listen. If Christ who is love can do that, we need to learn how too.

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It’s good for the people in our lives, too. Sometimes we rush to the rescue too soon and we take away their opportunity to grow. When we give space to others to make their own decisions and live their own lives, they need less from us. Its a win, win.

Exercise the freedom to live your life while giving others the same courtesy. It makes life easier all around.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

 

red and white top

Wait till you see my great clothing finds

Continuing with yesterday’s theme, I thought I’d post some pictures today of the great clothing items I found at Goodwill and a garage sale. Can I just say………….

I’m an awesome thrift store shopper.

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My friends love to go shopping wit me because I can “see” things that they don’t. I see the possibilities which is probably why I hate the saying

“It is what is it is.”

No, it is is what it is only because someone hasn’t thought of something else.  It is what it is because someone gave up.

Anyway, enough of that rant. Here’s a silk skirt I found. The colors are much more vibrant. The fabric is gorgeous. Price? One dollar-Goodwill.

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This little top is in perfect condition. Price? One dollar-Goodwill

orange floral skirt

Here’s a great shawl. Price? Goodwill-$1.00.

plaid shawl

This great green print top for spring. Goodwill-$1.00

green striped top

This skirt I purchased at a garage sale. Garage sale, $1.00. It was never worn and firs perfectly.

brown flounced skirt

This sweater is Ann Taylor and is in perfect condition. Goodwill, $2:00

teal sweater

Simple tank top from Old Navy. Brand new. Goodwill $2.00

striped shell

I love, love , love this red and white top. Goodwill, $3,00. I was a big spender on this one.

 

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red and white top

Isn’t this white top adorable. Check our the little ruffle on the bottom. Goodwill, $2:00.

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And finally this adorable Ann Taylor top. The fabric on this is so soft and beautiful. The sleeves are 3/4 length.  Goodwill, $2:00.

purple print top

 

 

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