LIFE

Why statistics are NOT your destiny

“Statistics aren’t destiny”.

I don’t know who the author but the above statement is so true.

No matter what your personal stats are in regards to, age, ethnicity, history, education, wealth, etc., you can rise above what the statistics suggest is your destiny. We might be hampered by some limitations, but

our future is not determined by our limitations, but by our possibilities.

 

How many times have we heard such statements as:

  • You’re too young.
  • You’re too old.
  • You’re too skinny.
  • You’re too fat.
  • You’re not smart enough.
  • You don’t have the right education.
  • You’re not talented enough.
  • You don’t have enough money.
  • You don’t have enough time.
  • You don’t have the right background
  • Why can’t you just relax?
  • Why do you always have to be busy

I could probably list lots more. We’ve all been there, discouraged by those who don’t share our vision and hopes.

And, honestly, I don’t think we always should. I think some of our dreams have to be kept close to our heart. When it comes to spiritual visions, (no, not the visions that illicit thoughts of the supernatural) I think it’s best to keep those very close to our heart, if and until God directs otherwise.

When Jesus performed miracles, he often told the recipient not to tell anyone what had happened. Sometimes it was because Jesus was not ready for his ministry to go public but I wonder if sometimes it was because Jesus was thinking of the “healed” one, wanting them to have time to process what had happened before they went public.

I told no one but my husband about my idea to blog. He could’ve said, “You don’t know enough about computers.” “You won’t stick to it.” “What makes you think anyone will be interested?”

But he didn’t.

Instead, he watched as I worked harder on setting up a blog than anything I’d ever done. He watched as I grew more frustrated every day. He watched as I almost gave up a number of times, almost threw the computer at the wall. Grrrr.

For many of you, setting up a blog doesn’t sound that difficult. But for someone with as limited technical knowledge and skills as myself, it was a huge endeavor. “URL’s” was a foreign language to me. Then when I didn’t get any followers for weeks (I hadn’t figured out about tags, categories, publicizing , etc. until months later), I still didn’t give up.

Every time I wrote, I wrote from the heart knowing without question, that I was doing exactly what I should be doing. I could’ve told myself I was too old, not computer-smart enough, didn’t have enough time, was “too” this or “not enough that“. There were times I almost did. But then I would say too myself, if God really had brought me to this endeavor, there is no way he wouldn’t get me through it.

But then I would say to myself, if God really had brought me to this endeavor, there is no way he wouldn’t get me through it.

Sure, we need to consider the “statistics”and then figure out how to get around them. My hands are very small and not really strong. I have a friend who is an OTA (occupational therapist assistant) and she has often told me how to make my hands “work” by switching off tasks and approaching my tasks differently.

Nowhere do statistics raise their ugly heads more than in the area of mental health, particularly depression. We are told that one bout of depression sets us up for another. That once we have been through a couple of episodes, we are ninety percent more likely to continue to suffer bouts. Pretty soon, the “experts” tell us, we are doomed to a more or less chronic depressed state and thus prescription drugs.

My personal story battling depression defies that so-called accurate prediction as does many others. Many have beat depression.

I’m not suggesting I won’t have another bout, this thing called “life” almost guarantees everyone will suffer a bout of depression because of a death, a tragic illness, etc. That doesn’t determine their future emotional state, does it? So why should a period of depression caused by something else determine it?

What the so-called experts fail to say is that “Statistics aren’t destiny”, they have never been and they never will be.

People defy the odds every single day, every single moment.

Children with Down Syndrome now go to college and have careers. As recently as twenty years ago they were written off as non-valuable members of society.

A ninety-six-year-old woman just finished a marathon. (She was probably last but, hey, she finished.)

I am blogging. Who woulda’ thunk it?

People are breaking all kind of society-imposed barriers.

We can, too.

Yes, we should consider the cost, financial, personal, etc, look at the negatives, get good advice, and certainly give our plans much prayer. But if after all that the dream still lives in our heart, we should move forward.

As a Christian, I pretty much believe that when I feel a strong desire to do something, it is God who has put it there. But because I’m human as well and can still be wrong, I take my time before I proceed. Then I might proceed slowly to test the waters. I always believe that the dream will not die if God is in it.

What are you being told you can’t do? Does that dream grip your every wakening moment? Does it grow every day? Then probably you need to take the first step and engage in a thorough examination.

Almost everyone I know who has accomplished their dreams had a bumpy beginning. But they all share one striking feature, they didn’t give up. They keep their dream right in front of them at all times like the carrot at the end of a stick.

  • My grandson just graduated. He has great dreams. He’s one of those people who knows that to realize his dreams he has to work hard.
  • My husband was told that he shouldn’t go to college because people from his neighborhood just didn’t do that. HIs teachers told him he would never be an accountantl; he ended up traveling the world as a forensic account because he was just that good.
  • My son struggled in school. He probably should have been diagnosed with ADD. we He is now a Superintendent of a school district and is really good at it because he understands the struggle students have.
  • Vincent Van Gogh struggeled with mental illness.
  • Great authors whose books have stood the test of time, were usually rejected often in the beginning.

So what’s our excuse? Is there any really good reason for not moving on with our dreams?

  • You are not doomed because someone has assigned a statistic to you.
  • You are not a number.
  • You are unique with unique dreams.

We are far stronger than we know we are.

Don’t give up on your dreams.

God bless and have a great day.