Month: February 2017


It’s a choice. It’s all a choice. Here’s why.

It’s early and I’m getting ready to head to my mom’s.

I read a sentence this morning from Leo Tolstoy and it’s so true, in most instances anyway.

Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.

I have to remind myself of that often. I’m not going to have my mom around that much longer, although she comes from a mother who lived to be one hundred and three and a sister that lived to one hundred and two. My mom is not as healthy as they were and is very frail. Every day we worry about a severe fall that will completely do her in.

But until then, I want to care for her the best I can. I’ve pampered her a lot this week just because I can. One of her caregivers is a licensed cosmetologist so she’s had a pedicure and a manicure. I’ve prepared some special meals and tonight she gets treated to Kentucky Fried Chicken.

I am sad though because we don’t have the conversations we used to have. She can’t as she can’t follow a chain of thought for more than a few minutes. I realize I am in a stage of grieving even though I still have her with me physically. She’s not the mother I know. She’s a new mother, one that requires my utmost patience.

What a shift in roles, one I never saw coming but one that has enriched my life and made me a better person, although I worried for a time that it would make me bitter.

But God is on his throne guiding me every step of the way and I rest in him.

God bless and have a good day.


God really does answer prayer

I’m late posting today but I forewarned you last week  I might be.

As it turns out while it’s been really busy with my brother being gone, it’s also been going really well.


Mom has not been confused once so far. She is sleeping better at night. I’m hoping the “cocktail” I have her on is working. I think though it might be more a combination of things:

  • Her “happy light” that shines on her for thirty minutes in the morning. (I bought mine through Amazon.)
  • The fact that I’ve kind of kept her busy and distracted.
  • The fact that she’s had a lot of people coming in and out.
  • Who knows?

For me, I believe prayer is the biggest explanation. But remember when we pray for something, it almost always means we will be required to participate in some way. If you want to read more on prayer, just search the word and you’ll find lots of posts.

For now, I’m not going to over-analyze. I’m just very grateful that the week is going well.

You know my mom has been diagnosed with dementia. We have seriously questioned that diagnosis and even her caregivers question it and they had their share of dementia patients. If you’ve been reading my posts about my mom, you know I”ve been all over the place, accepting it one minute, and denying it the next. We know the confusion is real at times but physical illnesses other than dementia can cause confusion.

It doesn’t matter in the final analysis because my brother and I are committed to keeping her in her home as long as we can.

So bear with me this week. I’ll do my best to post every day.

I hope your day is going well. Everybody has “something” don’t they?

God bless and have a good day.

PS  I think our new floor gets installed tomorrow. I’m taking pics so I can show you. I am so excited although the timing is not good. Will tell you about that later.







Next week could be rough

Next week could be a problem.

My brother is going to be out-of-town for six days. I have made arrangements for twenty-four-hour care for my mother. We are concerned about how she will do in the evenings. I will be there until she goes to bed but if she wakes up in the middle of the night and sees someone unfamiliar there, we don’t know how she will react.

I am not spending the nights with her because I won’t sleep a wink. I’d be worried I might not hear her. Falling is a real concern. Plus, I have to stay healthy for the long-term.

So if any of you feel so inclined, I would appreciate your prayers. My brother will be gone Saturday through Thursday.

I am feeling particularly anxious about this. But I keep reminding myself of Philippians 4:6

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Hopefully, I will be right back on schedule for Monday, ’cause I want to start writing about spring projects.

Oh, by the way, the following pictures will give you a hint.

Have you ever tried to chip mastic off of a cement base? In one word:



removing tile/2017


Do you see all those little ridges of mastic? They have to be chipped down to no more than 1/8 inch.

Fun, huh? So think about me as we finish this up today and tomorrow. Then there’s the carpet to rip up.


God bless and have a good day.







How God changes drudgery into glory


For the most part wouldn’t you agree that our lives are largely composed of the mundane? Our daily tasks take on a feel of drudgery and boredom. We don’t see how God is glorified through doing our job, whether at home or in a workplace or both.

But I think that our “drudgery” becomes transformed when we perform our duties and let God’s light shine on them. We do this be realizing that God speaks most often through the commonness of our life, not the exceptions.

How many times do we read about feet washing in the New Testament, a true act of humility if ever there was one.

As Oswald Chambers says:

“When the Lord does a thing through us, He always transfigures it.”

I don’t think we can expect to see that transformation. It’s kind of like “air”. It surrounds us and yet in most circumstances, we’re not aware of it.

We breathe in God’s grace and we breathe out his glory. I have no clue how that happens but I firmly believe we either make the world a better place or not depending on our actions. If in God’s eyes, even the most humble act of washing feet (John thirteen in the Bible) is worthy enough to be mentioned in a book that is chock-full of miracles, then it is obviously important for us to understand why it’s there.

Why did God want the mundane recorded amidst the amazing?

To remind us that life is almost never about the amazing and almost always about the drudgery. It is in the most ordinary of life’s events that God is glorified the most.

So for today, I encourage you that if what you do today seems insignificant, it doesn’t have to be. Anything we do today can bring glory to God. Colossians 3:17 says:

New International Version
And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

ps. You know the posts of the last three days? I have something so wonderful to share with you, I can hardly wait. But I want my words to capture the experience and the lessons learned in the most precise way possible so I’m taking a few days to process it all. Keep a watch out for that post. I’ll let you know a day ahead of time. All I can say is, it might well be the most important (and from God’s viewpoint the hardest lesson he’s ever had to teach me) spiritual insight I’ve ever gleaned.


How to make the sun shine on you today

I hope it is. It’s shining on me today but that’s because I’ve finally made a decision I can live with, one I should have made a few days ago.


And this decision reflects God’s presence in my life. I can’t go into detail but let me say that my decision meant that someone else will benefit from something they shouldn’t while I will lose something in the process. And it stings. But they will experience undeserved mercy, just as I’ve experienced it so often myself.

Haven’t you been there? As a Christian, it should happen more than not because we should always be trying to fulfill the most important commandment, “Love the Lord your God, with all your heart, all your soul, and all your might. And your neighbor as yourself.”

When we fulfill that commandment we often have to put ourselves in positions that our prideful hearts don’t want to go. But God keeps “nagging” us to do the right thing. And when we do that “right” thing, the sun starts to shine in our heart again.


I have a very sensitive conscience, especially to the Holy Spirit’s leading. I kinda’ wished I didn’t. What others can get away with, I can’t. I sometimes I wish I could. Of course, when you ask God to interfere in your life when he needs to (as I always do), to present a “detour” when you’re heading down the wrong road, I guess you shouldn’t be surprised when he does.

It’s funny because nothing in my life as changed today. The circumstances are just as I wrote yesterday. But I should be able to sleep tonight knowing I’ve done the kind and merciful thing.

Isn’t it strange how we are responsible for so much of our own happiness, how we are the ones that decide if the sun is going to shine on us or not?

Take a lesson from me, examine your heart. Is God asking you to do something, or not do something, that is preventing the sun from shining on you? It might be something worth considering.

I’m glad I did.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

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