O.k., today’s post may seem silly. What does hair have to do with depression? Actually, more than you might know.
The one constant over the years is my hair. It’s wild, unruly, and I have a lot of it. I’ve colored it for years but somewhere in these last fifteen years, I gave that up. At least the permanent color. Sometimes I still add a temporary color that fades away in a few short washings. All it really does it tone down my too-bright hair.
I think women’s hair should never look too “set”. You know what I mean. It’s very aging when our hair doesn’t move. And yet there are days when I wish mine would stay put.
I can actually gauge what my mood is going to be like by what my hair looks like. Every woman alive knows that “a good hair day” is a good day in general. But when you deal with low moods it’s even more important. I take care to make myself and my hair presentable every day. It helps set the tone for the rest of the day.
And yes, I did this when I was clinically depressed. It was hard to put on a presentable appearance every day but I made myself do it. It always helped.
The last thing a depressed person needs is to look in the mirror and see a disheveled wild person staring back at them. I’m not saying that my hair never looked messy or that it doesn’t now. Of course, it does.
I’m talking more about the effort than the result.
The next time you’re having a bad day, look at your hair. I’m serious.
Depression responds well, if even for a short time, to the simplest and littlest constructive steps we take. If you’re suffering a serious episode, I don’t mean to imply just washing your hair will cure it. And I also know that any effort seems overwhelming when you’re depressed. But, please, do it anyway. It doesn’t cost much and it requires very little time but the results are big for such little effort.
Don’t you find that if you look better, you feel better? Or are you wanting to look bad others will feel sorry for you? Sometimes I think that’s true for some people.
Depression is a debilitating illness. But even with that being true there are so many simple things we can do, simple steps we can take that ease the pain a little. Washing our hair, taking a shower, making the bed, making a phone call, anything that diverts our attention from ourselves is helpful.
If you’re depressed, do those little things that can help you feel better. I promise you it won’t hurt and one little constructive step just might lead to another.
God bless and I hope you have a good day.