LIFE

Jumping from a plane when you don’t have a parachute.

That would be foolish, huh?

Who jumps from a plane without a parachute? No one. Unless, of course, they have a death wish.

(Of course, some people have but I stick with my previous statement about having a death wish and those that did had either a net to catch them or another skydiver to “catch” them.)

But there are people who do much the same thing all the time. They spend money as if there were a never-ending supply, as is there really were a “money tree.” They spend energy as if they have supernatural strength. They “share” their bodies as if doing so guaranteed they will be loved. I could go on. But you get it, right?

And I think we all do it all the time. We simply don’t think of the consequences.

We jump before we think.

jumping from a plane

We don’t think we need a  “restraint” parachute.

Let me use a recent example. I will pick on Kathy Griffith. Did she break any laws? Nope. But did she jump without a parachute? Yep.

How did she get to a place where she didn’t realize how awful her actions were? I would suggest it’s because she’s been jumping without a parachute for a long time and she finally landed hard.

That’s what jumping without a parachute will do.

Every time.

Or the woman I know who has no regular income yet goes to the casino when she does manage do come up with a few bucks. That’s also jumping with a parachute.

Or like me, when I spend every bit of physical energy I have working hard on something that doesn’t need to be done all in one day.

As my mother was dying I knew I had a choice about where I invested my emotional energy. I could’ve jumped without a parachute and tried to meet everyone else’s emotional needs, or I could grab a parachute so I could glide and meet my own needs. I chose to do the latter.

This was my mother. Only my brother and I were losing a mother. Some were losing their grandma, great-grandma, etc. But we were losing our mother.

When I could, of course, I tried to help others with the loss they were feeling but, and I’m being painfully honest here, I chose to concentrate on me. I have not regretted that for one minute.

I think one of the healthiest things we can do sometimes is to know what our need is and be sure that need is met.

It isn’t that we don’t meet other people’s needs as much as we can. It only means that it’s easy to get out of balance when we give of ourselves to the point of depleting our own emotional, physical, and mental health.

If we keep jumping out of our plane without a parachute we won’t be flying high for too long. We will eventually free fall.

It’s a guarantee.

I’ve known a lot of people who find themselves in a dead heap on the ground because they never plan on the safety a parachute provides.

God bless and have a good day.

 

 

 

 

 

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  1. Up until my correct diagnosis, I stretched myself too thin and did my best to meet everyone else’s needs before my own. I remember how emotionally exhausted I was every day because I didn’t ever take the time to do some internal upkeep, I didn’t take the time to ask myself how I was doing. Now, though, I’m doing better at it. I have to, in order to treat myself the way I should treat myself. Thank you for your insightful posts, I always look forward to reading them.

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