How to live with a chronic brokenness, four steps

I must admit that I don’t like living with pain but there are times we just can’t avoid it. I”m not talking about physical pain;  that’s another topic for another day

I’m talking about those ongoing situations from which we absolutely cannot escape because it’s not in our power to do so. It’s out of our hands.

Those are tough times because we so want the situation to get better. Knowing we are going to continue to deal with it for a long time is unimaginable to us. I don’t know about you but I like things to be resolved.

I hate ambiguity.

As a child, I could never be sure of anything and so I lived day by day fearfully anticipating the next explosion. While it never surprised me when it did come, because I was a child, I still hoped it wouldn’t. And it didn’t take long before my unsettled childhood led to anxiety which became a pretty permanent state-of-being for me for many years.

So even today when I’m faced with something hurtful and troubling, my first reaction is to feel anxious. Thank goodness I’ve learned to quickly identify it when it happens and take immediate steps to relieve it.

Like yesterday.

Yesterday was such a day. My husband recognized it immediately and suggested we go somewhere. He suggested Barnes and Noble. That sounded good but once we were out I mentioned Hobby Lobby and that I’d like to look around as there are usually good sales in their home goods department at this time of year. This is the time of year I bought these adorable Christmas mugs, 

Then because it was so unusually warm and sunny, sitting inside just wasn’t going to cut it. So I suggested we walk in our local state park. We ended up walking for almost an hour and the fresh air and exercise was exactly what I needed. I came home refreshed and relaxed.

Today it’s dark and gloomy but I am ready to tackle my day. I found these great chairs at Hobby Lobby yesterday and am thinking about going back and buying just one to see how it looks in my kitchen. They can order more.

Isn’t it adorable?

chair/hobby lobby/2017

And then I found these bowls that I’m going to hang on a wall in our sunroom.




turquoise bowls./2017

But most importantly I will remember this:

Proverbs 12:25/2017


So how do you live with a certain level of brokenness?

  • If you’re a follower of Jesus, you cling to him for wisdom.


  • You continue with your prayer life and Bible study time. (Although with the praying, you may find that there are times you will simply pray, “Holy Spirit, pray for me today. You know my needs and concerns. I don’t have the words.”


  •  You get up, make the bed, and put on your best appearance. In other words, you show up.


  • You engage in some sort of physical activity.


  • You do something creative. This is a must for me and I believe it is for most people. It doesn’t mean you have to be an artist or do “arty” things. It might just mean re-arranging something in a room or moving something from one room another. It might mean fixing something you’ve been putting off. What matters is that your mind is fully engaged. Do the things that bring a level of distraction. As I’ve said before and will repeat often:

Distraction is a wonderful thing.

It’s not easy knowing some situations are never going to get better. But don’t say, “It is what it is”.


Because God doesn’t.

Not once.

Not ever.


If God had a middle name it would be “hope”.

Remember, anxiety will not kill you.

Anxiety is temporary.

Anxiety responds to a number of techniques.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.


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  1. I sure think God had me find your blog today. I haven’t been on my website now for months except to write a blog post about why I haven’t been. I’ve been struggling with health issues the last 10 years and had to quit work, so I’m more homebound and I find myself becoming anxious about my health and I’ve even said “it is what it is” so I believe God directed me to you today to encourage me!

    • I am so glad it helped. Anxiety and depression are the worst. No one knows unless they’ve been there. And one feels so alone and isolated. It’s a terrible feeling and the heaviness in your chest is awful. It really darkens everything around you. Believe it or not, I’m going to have to reread this post myself. Over the weekend, for the first time in YEARS, I had an anxiety attack that is still lingering after three days. Right out of the blue. But was it? I’ve posted often how even though it feels out of the blue, it never is. So now I have some soul-searching of my own to do. Might I suggest you read Psalm 30? I was at our cabin this morning and couldn’t remember where I left off because I have a different Bible there than I do at home. So I thought, “Well, it’s the thirtieth of the month so I’ll the thirtieth Psalm.” It was like a God prompt because it was just what I needed. Sound like we both had a God-prompt. Stay on board. I will be writing more about anxiety/depression because now it has raised it’s ugly head again. God bless you and I really mean it when I say I hope you are getting better every day.

      • I actually had never had anxiety attacks till entering menopause and then of course with my health issues I think the loss of hope (year after year) just sends me further down. I have to fight to really encourage myself in the Lord like David did!🙌

    • I’m so glad to hear this. That’s the reason I blog. Having been there, I know how awful anxiety/depression feels. God bless you.

    • I’m so glad it helped. Read my reply above. I think it will help. As I stated above to someone else, I really hope you’re doing better. By the way, check out how depression can be worse in the summer for many people. “Google” it. God bless.