When depression can no longer be your excuse

What happens when you can no longer use your depression as your excuse?

We can get so comfortable with our depression that it becomes our mantra. It’s convenient. It’s a way to keep people away. It’s a way to avoid putting ourselves “out there”.

“I can’t do that. I’m feeling too “down.”

“I’m just not up to that today”.

“I don’t feel like company today”.

“That’s just too overwhelming.”

“I’m sorry I yelled. It’s just I’m so depressed”.

Etc, etc, etc.

Depression serves a purpose.

For example, depression may be a “blankie” we hide under for a while. It might actually be our security that we climb into and just stay there and let everyone else pick up the pieces. And sometimes, that’s OK.

And I’m NOT suggesting we can just pick ourselves up and get going. No way. Depression is such a heavy cloud hanging over us that we can barely hold our heads up.

But I am saying anyone who has ever conquered anything has reached a point where they said, “No more!”

Counseling may help us correct our thinking but to dwell on the past ad infinitum is to just prolong the healing process. Healing begins when we say to ourselves, “Enough is enough. I am going to get better. I will do what I have to do. I will take whatever medication I have to take. I will stop whatever destructive thing I’m doing. I will learn new ways of thinking, behaving, talking, etc. I am going to get better. I am.”

Will you rise to the challenge today?

Is today the day you say, “No more”?

What would happen if you gave up using your depression as an excuse to avoid life? If you only started here, meaning no longer using depression as an excuse anymore to avoid people, situations, etc., you would be surprised at how much better you would feel.

It’s going to be hard, this whole healing process. Your eyes will be opened to your own involvement in your depression. You will learn it just didn’t happen to you but that there were specific circumstances along the way that you didn’t handle properly. You will find that you have used your depression as an excuse.

Anyone who’s ever overcome any injury, illness, etc has been in that exact same place. You will get better if and when you want to.

I had to reach that same place where I said, “I’m through with this. I’m moving on no matter what it takes. Depression has already robbed me of too much”.

How long will you continue to be robbed of the joy of living? It’s your choice.

God is already ahead of you on this journey. He’s waiting right in the middle of the road. You don’t have to be “super-Christian” for Him to show up for you.

He simply will because He loves you.

God bless you on this journey to health. I know you can do it.

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  1. First of all, I am sorry you are dealing with depression. It’s horrible as I know so well.

    I reread my post and stand by every word. I also stated that in no way do I suggest a person can just pull themselves out of depression. I have never said that.

    But our footprints all over our depression.

    Every mental health professional says the same thing. Counseling is often suggested. Why? Because there are some behaviors, thinking patterns, WE are engaging in that makes our depression worse.

    Have you read the actual accounts of those you mentioned? There are many others as well. Their own words verify what I say. It’s nothing new.

    I was like you, too. I lived a perfectly normal life. Had my quiet times, studied my Bible. Had lots of friends. No one knew and that was part of the problem. And, yes, it did offer a weird kind of “security”. I could blame it on this thing outside of me instead of dealing with some of my own issues.

    Depression, unless caused by an illness, etc., is a prison we keep ourselves in. I had a hard time buying into that but all the research suggests it’s true.

    I think of King David, the apostle Paul. They had their issues with depression as well and yet over and over again, they write about the proactive measures they take.

    I thank you for your comments. I really do. They help me grow and they challenge me. I so want those who read what I write to be uplifted because I know what this terrible illness feels like.

    At the same time, I know that sometimes what I write is hard to accept. It was for me as well. But I never write anything that I haven’t thoroughly researched. I have read hundreds of books including the Bible.

    I truly feel sad that my words have disturbed you.

    God bless you my sister in Christ and may you find victory over your depression.

    (I apologize for any typos. This reply was typed from my cell phone.)

  2. Sorry to say but you missed the mark here. No one, really depressed, can talk themselves out of it any more than you can talk yourself out of chronic arthritis, a sprained back or ALS.
    I am depressed now. It is not an excuse for anything, I’m not hiding under a “blankie”. I had edifying Bible study & a time of worship, compelling myself to sing to the Lord bc He deserves praise.
    I went out in my neighborhood, saw & hugged friends, did errands and greeted people. Not one of them would guess I’m depressed.
    In sure that godly servants such as Charles Spurgeon and David Brainerd, who suffered from severe depression, would be surprised to know it was their “choice” to snap out of it.
    I hope you rethink your approach.