Table of Contents
- The Situation
- What’s the answer?
Feeling sad is hard especially when you are feeling sad for others. Years ago in a far away land when I had just started blogging, my site was called, “The Worm in My Apple”. I really liked that title because doesn’t it just seem some days there’s a worm in your bright, juicy apple?
This was written way back then and yet it is as applicable today as it was then.
This is one of those days when I’m feeling a little down. It’s a mild case and I know exactly what prompted my low mood. There’s nothing of major proportion going on, just an ongoing situation that makes me very sad. As my dear husband always says, it doesn’t matter what I do (in this particular case), I end up with the short end of the stick. It wouldn’t be so bad if the situation were at all predictable but it isn’t. I never know when I’m going to run into the wall. It’s unnerving, to say the least, and I end up with a lot of bruises.
Can’t gift happiness
I would give anything to be able to gift-wrap happiness for those I know who seem to be in short supply. But I’m learning that in the final analysis, I can give “gift” happiness only to myself. While other people and adverse circumstances can negatively impact our lives (sometimes dramatically and sometimes for a long time as in the case of grieving), in the final analysis, we determine our own level of contentedness. Believe me, I haven’t quite got this right myself yet but I instinctively know it’s true because it’s a fundamental tenet of Christianity.
Responsible for our own
Ultimately we are the ones responsible for our own sense of well-being. You notice I used the word well-being. That’s because happiness is an overworked and misunderstood concept. Happiness is not always the goal. It isn’t easy finding equilibrium when someone we love is miserable. For me, it hurts more than just about anything else I can think of because I have an insatiable need to make everyone happy. But we can’t, no matter how hard we try, make anyone else happy. (I think most of us know that at some level.)
Everyone had to mine their own gold, find what brings them happiness and a sense of well-being.Tweet
What’s the answer?
With that being said, let me encourage you if you are feeling as I am today to get on with your life. Get up and get moving. When you do, you will start to feel better and your mind will start to occupy itself with other matters.
“Putter” as much as you need to ’till your “sputtering” dies down. It keeps depression and anxiety under control.Tweet
Talk to God about it
After bringing to God, talk to a friend if you need to. But let it go after that. Constant rehashing makes it worse. Rumination (going over the same issue, ad infinitum) is a symptom of depression and can also trigger depression. Avoid it at all costs. It never helps.
Gift yourself some happiness
So what do we do when those closest to us are miserable? For me, I do my best to keep my own head above water knowing that someone has to stay afloat. I keep treading water until the situation improves while guarding my heart against further damage. “Gift” yourself some happiness today. It’s not insensitive. It’s the kindest thing you can do for them and for you.
I hope you find some happiness today and God bless.
We can rest confidentially that God will always help us make the right decision. Asking for wisdom a head of time is the best way.