connecting the dots

How to keep depression’s voice “quiet”

Sometimes, we don’t see the connections in our life. We don’t connect the dots between how we’ve lived and how we feel. There is always a connection, always a cause and effect. That’s how we’re wired. To read more:

connecting dots

It’s good to connect the dots of your life from morning to evening. Take a few minutes at the end of the day and reflect how you think the day went for you.

  • If it was a good day, WHY?
  • If it was a bad day, WHY?

If we ask ourselves some questions, we can usually figure it out.

If we don’t, depression will continue to “talk” to us. Not a good thing.  Here’s some questions you might find helpful.

  • Whom did I spend time with and how did being in their company make me feel?
  • How were my health habits (eating, exercising) today?
  • How often did I find yourself using defeating words?
  • (If you’re a person of faith) How did I practice my faith’s disciplines?
  • Did I do something I really enjoyed?

Sometimes, we meander through our day kind of willy-nilly. We don’t deliberately choose anything. We let life just swallow us up. For me, I prefer to go to bed knowing I was a little more intentional about what I did that day. I function better with structure. Most of us do.

Tailor your questions for yourself. The above list is mine for now but it doesn’t stay static.  I change it up now and then. Like this:

do nothing

Maybe you could write your questions out and put them on your bed stand.  How about on your phone?  Maybe they won’t even be questions. Maybe a chart or just some bullet points. It’s just a way to track your day. It’s whatever works best for you.

You might prefer just to take a minute or two and reflect. You might be a “journaler”. It’s a good thing to examine your life, not morbidly, just reflectively so that tomorrow will be better than today.

Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

the examined life

I agree with that. When we’re dealing with depression, it becomes even more important to not allow too much unstructured time. If you’re struggling, too much unstructured time allows your thoughts to take over and run rampantly through the garden of your mind. You can grow flowers there or weeds.

A “weedy” mind is not a healthy mind.

If you experience bouts of depression, look back over your day. Try and figure out why it was good or bad. (Some days, of course, are just neutral;  I like those days.) If we don’t confront our issues, we’ll never change anything.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.