I think part of the problem in keeping resolutions is taking the time to really thinking them through. Most resolutions are no more than “wishes”, which isn’t a bad thing but without a well thought out plan even our wishes won’t come true.
Resolution keeping should be based on sound strategy. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves before we even begin.
For example, let’s say weight loss or weight control is one of my resolutions. Instead of just saying, “I’ll eat healthier” I need to identify how I will do that. I can know all the facts about healthy eating but knowing is not the same as doing. So maybe I need to add:
I will eat fruit and vegetables every day.
I will only bring healthy food into my home.
I will do this by shopping the perimeter of the store.
I will develop a strategy for eating away from home.
I will eat something sweet every day. (I’ll explain this one later.)
I will tell myself that not every special occasion is really a special occasion.
Everyone’s plan will be unique. While it helps to gather information and to listen to what others are doing, in the end your plan has to be your plan. For example, when I wrote earlier that I will eat something sweet every day you might have wondered what I was thinking.
For me I know that I have a sweet tooth and when I try to deny it, I can eat a whole gallon of ice cream if I ‘m not careful. So for me a plan to keep from overeating means allowing myself a small “sweet” every day. Even if it’s just a Hershey kiss, it works for me. I’m fortunate in that I can quit with just one. My plan definitely wouldn’t work for everyone but it works for me.
So this is how I’m beginning my month of planning my resolutions. I’m thinking through categories, like health, spirituality, relationships, creativity, challenges. In each category, I’m narrowing my focus.
I’m looking at what has worked and what hasn’t worked for me in the past. For example, I’ve taken the challenge of studying the Bible thirty minutes a day. There’s a big difference between reading and studying. So to meet that goal I’m getting up by 7:00 no matter how tired I am so that I’ll have time to have coffee, catch up on the late-breaking news, and get dressed.
However, I also need to plan for interruptions to my well-made plans. It’s my experience that God often interrupts my plans. Right now we have an unexpected house guest for a while. That makes meeting my challenge a little more different.
People come first in God’s world.
When He brings a person my way that needs help, I know that He’s not considering my self-imposed schedule at all. I’m aware how God works because I’ve experienced many of these kinds of interruptions and God has always been the source. So I’ve learned not to feel guilty when I don’t meet my goals. Besides:
guilt is Satan arsenal, not God’s.
How are you doing with thinking through your resolutions? Or are you? You don’t have to call them resolutions if that sounds too intimidating. Call them anything you want. But it never hurts anyone to set aside a little time for a few weeks to think through some things. What could it possibly hurt? And who knows, it might even help.
God Bless and I hope you have a good day.