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yellow lights

alphabet of thanks, “Y”

Today I’m grateful for YELLOW LIGHTS.

Actually, I wish there were yellow lights for more than just cars.

I mean wouldn’t it be great if every time we started to eat that extra cookie, or that extra piece of pizza, a yellow light would come on to warn us of impending danger?

How about a yellow light that went off in our brain every time we started to say or do something stupid? I mean wouldn’t that be wonderful and think of all the anguish it would prevent us from feeling?

yellow lights

But, of course, we do have yellow lights, especially if we’re followers of Christ. It’s called the Bible.

And if I were forced to come up with one only book in the Bible that gives us pretty much all the “yellow lights” we need, it would be the book of Proverbs. That’s why I read it every day.

It provides “yellow lights” for our words and our ways. There are “yellow lights” that warn us to slow down because we’re on the wrong path. “Yellow lights” about drinking, laziness, etc. But just like the yellow lights we sometimes race through at an intersection, we race through these as well. And just like those real yellow lights, ignoring them can prove to be disastrous.

So the next time you see those yellow lights, remind yourself that they are there for your protection and everyone else’s. And the same is true of God’s word.

Those “yellow lights” in Proverbs are there for our protection and, yes, the protection of those around us. Remember, every wrong move we make almost always affects more than us.

God bless and have a good day.

hutch after Christmas

Concentrate on the good to eliminate the bad

This is the time of year we make resolutions, even if we say we don’t. I think it’s just where our minds go.

I find it’s more positive to concentrate on the good we want to initiate rather than concentrate on the bad habits we want to change.

For example, instead of thinking about losing ten pounds which sounds so hard and so negative, why not picture ourselves in those new styles we want to wear?

Instead of giving up something, think about what the benefits will be.

Television watching is a good example. If you want to watch less TV so you can read more, think about that book you’re never getting around to reading. Put it somewhere as a reminder that in order to read that book, something else that is taking up your time has to go. In this case, watching TV.

I exercise pretty much every day. To be honest, I like exercising because I like how it makes me feel afterward. But mostly I exercise because I like being able to do the other things I like doing and seeing as all of them involve being able to walk upright and be healthy, (Seriously how can one enjoy anything if you don’t feel good in the first place?) I exercise. I know too many unhealthy people and the one thing they all have in common is that they don’t engage in regular physical exercise.

So because I don’t want to end up like them, I exercise. I guess that is focusing on the negative but in a postive way?

Most of us have some unhealthy habits. Not all of them are obvious. Many of them lie deep inside us.

We have negative and habitual ways we respond to people. Instead of focusing on what we’re doing wrong, let’s look at how we would like our relationships to look. If our actions are causing reactions in other people that bring us down, then it’s up to us, no matter how unfair, to change our behavior.

I know someone that I care deeply for who changes the subject, (it’s so obvious, but not to them) whenever I enter territory they don’t want to talk about. So I’ve learned (and it’s a goal to continue for this next year) to approach certain subjects differently and in some cases, not at all.

This is not really healthy as most relationships function better and are healthier when there aren’t these constraints but sometimes for our own well-being we have no choice.

I’m trying to think of an example.

Got one.

I’m a big advocate of people being more responsible for their health. To leave our health all in the hands of the health professionals seems crazy to me, especially when there’s so much information readily available. But I still believe in doctor’s visit, etc.

I know a few people who have been battling recurring and ongoing irksome medical problems. Rather than searching for answers through doctor’s visits and their own research, they choose to continue with the issue. I say choose because I believe in the end, that’s what it is, a choice. (I’m  not talking about really serious medical conditions here, of course.)

I used to “nag” them to check-in with their doctor, to exercise more, to try certain other things to see if they work. I don’t anymore. Not because I care less for them but because I also care about myself. There’s something about running into a brick wall that hurts after a while.

Haven’t you all been there?

After a period of time, if you’re smart, you realize you need to change how you interact with some people. Now I wait for them to bring up certain subjects and then I “brainstorm” with them for a while, but when that “brainstorming” becomes nothing more than talk with no plans for follow-up, I’M the one who now changes the subject.

Anyway, as you begin this new year and if you’re trying to change some things, try to look at your goals and how to get there from a more positive approach.

It’s another dark, dreary and COLD day here in Michigan. I’m continuing to take down Christmas decorations and get the house back in order. It looks so “plain” now. I’ve got to get more accessories. (Did I tell you we fell in love with this big old house during the Christmas season?)

Here’s a before and after of my dining room hutch. Which do you prefer?

Christmas 2016

 

This is so boring now. It’s the lack of red, isn’t it?

hutch after Christmas

After looking at my hutch now, I see I’m focusing on the negative. Enough of that.

Anyway, God bless and have a really good day.

ps. I hope you read tomorrow’s post.

Baby steps to recovery from depression

I love what Mahatma Gandhi said,

harmony

Harmony

(I may be a Christian but I don’t have a problem with learning from those who profess their faith differently.)

This cycle of

thinking,

speaking,

and doing

is the same cycle that if out of sync must be restored to harmony in a depressive episode. If even one of them is damaged by depression, all the others are affected as well.

I found in my own recovery that stepping into the cycle anywhere helped but my greatest success came from changing my actions first- —the “doing” part. I found that if I got up and moved and did something constructive, that led to other actions and pretty soon I was in better spirits.

Overcoming depression is hard work.

hard work

hard work

I’m not suggesting for a minute that this alone will heal a serious case of depression. But if it lighten one’s mood and makes taking other steps easier, isn’t it worth a try?  It requires a herculean effort to do this when all you want to do is stay in bed and not face the world.  But if getting better is the goal, physical movement is a practical place to start.

hard work quote

Try it just for today and see if it doesn’t make even the tiniest difference. I think we forget sometimes that depression didn’t just smother us in one cataclysmic moment. It was a lot of little things that incrementally pushed us over the edge and it will be little increments, small steps, that walk us out. It’s not a process that can be rushed which, of course, is what makes it that much harder.

baby steps to recovery

baby steps to recovery

When people ask me “When are the pills going to kick in?”, I remind them they didn’t get depressed overnight and they won’t get better overnight. I can remember asking the same thing. Pills are often an integral part of the recovery for some people but they are not the only therapy that should be considered.

It’s a whole lifestyle, this battle to overcome depression, and must be fought on many fronts.

God bless and I hope you have a good day.

“Beware of leak…

“Beware of leakage, of the dividing up of your life by the influence of friends or of circumstances; beware of anything that is going to split up your oneness with Him and make you see yourself separately. Nothing is so important as to keep right spiritually.”

From Oswald Chamber’s, “My Utmost For His Highest.” , August 19th.

(But remember we can be right spiritually and not necessarily feel right. If we have our hearts totally directed to God and it is evidenced by our actions, words, and our spiritual disciplines, we are on the right track.)

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