Tag: knee-jerk reactions

When God wakes you up at 4:00 a.m.

As you know, there has been a lot going on in my life this week.

Yesterday was such a day. You can read about it here.

This morning at 4:00 a.m. God woke me up. I’m sure many would say it was because of stress. Some of it might have been but God certainly had some things to say to me.

While I am exhausted now, I am very much at peace about all the decisions I am having to make, which brings me to this post.

I find that when most people talk about compassion, they throw out common sense and logic. It’s so easy to have a knee-jerk reaction because we want to feel magnanimous. We don’t think through our choices. And, as Christians, we can really get messed up sometimes because we’re not familiar with all of Scripture. And the totality of scripture more times than not suggests that compassion should be tempered with thoughtful intelligence.

An example might be when someone feels compassion for a family member or friend who has a drug or alcohol addiction and contributes to that addiction by a gift of money. One could still help but in a way that doesn’t encourage bad behavior.

I thought of every parable. I thought of every healing. I thought of every lesson taught throughout the Bible. I thought of the Proverbs pertaining to wisdom.And all of that helped me work through the issues.

I have a supernatural peace now that scripture promises when we bring God in on our decision-making process from the very beginning.

Here’s some links to past posts about making decisions:

making decisions

My experience with how God helps us make good decisions

How to be absolutely sure God is leading us. (part 1

And then there is a post that seems contradictory. You’ll have to read it to know what I’m talking about.

Why we don’t always have to ask God about every decision.

Anyway, hope this helps you today if you have some big decisions to make.

God bless and have a good one.

 

 

 

 

Christmas 2016

How to “put it all away” after Christmas.

Christmas cookies,2016No, it’s not what you think.

I’m not talking about Christmas decorations.

That’s easy.

There are lots of “things” in our life that need organizing, that need to be “put away” and forgotten, that need to be resolved, that need to be approached differently.

Taking a knee-jerk reaction to the experiences of the last year is just that, a knee-jerk reaction.

And I’m not really going to spend much time on this today. I’m saving this whole subject of “new’ beginnings for January. If you’ve followed me for very long you know that I like January almost more than December. Here’s two older posts if you want to check them out.

The only point I want to make today is that change all by itself is not necessarily good.

Too many of us look back over the year and proudly declare as though they’re the victim of something, “Well, things are just going to have to be different next year. I’m going to change some things.”

To which I might reply (and to myself as well), “Hmm, maybe I’m the one that needs to change.” But even then, some people still mean that they feel the victim and therefore this change they’re referring to is meant to nurse their imagined wounds and validate their pain.  It’s the  knee-jerk reaction I referred to earlier and it’s usually just a way to avoid looking at ourselves.

And the interesting thing? We can take that approach and be quite successful for a while.

But you know what?

It seldom works. Mostly because we haven’t looked at ourselves first to see how much we contribute to our own “pain”.

As we look to the new year and reflect on the old, let’s get a little more honest with ourselves. I would suggest the last thing we need to do is change ourselves, I mean our basic personality.

Are there some things we need to do differently? Probably. More than likely it isn’t what we’re doing nearly as much as how we’re thinking and reacting to life and life’s events.

But the most important fact about change is this:

Change without serious and honest reflection is change that is short-lived.

Change that isn’t God-inspired won’t honor God.

Change without personal responsiblity is short-sighted.

Change for change’s sake is not necessarily good.

I will be blogging during January about the subject of change, using myself as the prime example but drawing from the experiences of others as well.

But for today, it’s enough just to remind ourselves that declaring, “Some things are just going to have to change”, is a non-starter.

Anyway, God bless as you recover from the holidays and enter the doldrums of January and February.

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